Dear Class of 2016 (and more specifically my lovely, kind, sarcastic, amiable, crazy, sweet, nutty, wonderful seniors),
It’s fall of 2015. An exciting time for you. And a scary one. Many of you are working hard at putting the finishing touches on your high school resumes and college essays. You are dreaming of acceptance letters, but having nightmares about standardized tests that require bubbling answers with #2 pencils. I know. I get it. I did it. I lived it. And it was rough. I’m with you.
But I want to take a moment to make something very clear. If writing those essays, refining those resumes, and taking those bubble tests are not things you are worried about because you don’t need to be, that’s perfectly fine. Don’t let all this fall-time hype make you think that those things are the key to life. College is not the main route to success. Don’t feel ashamed–or let others shame you–because traditional post-secondary education is not your path. And certainly, very certainly, do not go to college if is not something you want for yourself.
Let’s talk about college. It was fun. Like, really, really fun. If I could go back, I would. But it was A LOT of work, too. I spent hours partying with my friends, but exponentially more time reading, writing, discussing, and presenting while I was in school. I stayed up all night laughing with my friends, but I worked the next two to make sure my psych project was worthy of a professor’s critique. I spent countless hours in the library looking for credible sources to round out my semester-long research projects. I took 4-hour exams, bombed papers I spent weeks writing, and cried over “bad” grades more than I care to remember. (Thank God my friends and frozen yogurt were accessible 24 hours a day.)
My point is: College is an academic institution. It’s for those who want to pursue careers that require (at least some sort of) scholarly prowess. You want to be a teacher? Go to college. Lawyer? Go to college. Rocket physicist engineer with a concentration in micro something-or-other? Go. To. College. But if your interests are more practical than academic, pursue something that fulfills your desire to use your hands or mind in different ways.
There is an important distinction that must be made concerning college educated people versus those who are not. Those with a degree from a post-secondary institution are not better, kinder, more helpful, more honest, or happier than those who don’t have one. And honestly, they are certainly not more successful merely because they went to college. (Success is an attitude; a way of life. It’s not represented by a piece of paper covered in soft plastic.) Yes, those with a degree spent years learning how to apply theory by writing about it in hypothetical situations, but that doesn’t make them any smarter or more successful than the young electricians, plumbers, entrepreneurs, military personnel, and mechanics out there who chose not to go to college.
In the end, my advice to you is this: Go to college if you want to go to college. Don’t go for your mom or dad. Or to make someone else proud. Do it because you want to do it. And if college isn’t your thing (whether it be now, or later, or never) don’t be ashamed. Be an apprentice. Travel the world. Join the military. Go to trade school. Make a plan and follow it by working hard. It’s your life. You are the only one who can live it. You are the only one who can shape it. You will succeed if you want to. College doesn’t make you a success. You do.
So enjoy the rest of this year before you step off the stage as a high school graduate. Your life is just beginning; and college or not, go forth with gusto, energy, sincerity, humility, and grace. Those qualities will help you find success more than college ever could.
I will always be here to support you, and I can’t wait to see how it all turns out. Work hard.